I have a confession to make. In all the posts, and stories and The Long Run book, one uniting theme, or let’s say subtle undertow, prevails. It is a search for my own identity in an attempt to answer the question: who am I? I know that I am susceptible to taking over people’s behaviour, manners and vocabulary. The rule of thumb of being an average of five people I spend the most time with definitely applies in my case.
There are days when I put my hustler’s hat on and work hard, fuelled & inspired by Gary Vaynerchuk.
There are days when I get a little sentimental about Capoeira and I train my ass off. Then I watch videos with Ido Portal and I just want to move. Philosophy of Capoeira and movement inhibits a zero tolerance for alcohol and junk food.
On other occasion, I read Nassim Taleb’s books and it affects perception and thinking.
Then I may recall Hawkeye Pierce from M.A.S.H. and I feel like flirting with every woman, drinking and saying many jokes, both the goodies and the baddies.
Inevitably, I’d come across the Top Gear trio, because I am a huge fan of those guys and their work. And then I feel like not giving much crap.
Observing Mike Hrostoski, reading his blog posts and watching his work (the Symposium for Men starts today, it looks promising!)… makes me look at things from a completely different angle.
I read a book recently, called The Sword of No-Sword: Life of the Master Warrior Tesshu. Tesshu was besides many other things, a master calligrapher. And he said that in order to become an excellent calligrapher, one should begin by copying Chinese classics and copy their works, character by character, for some ten or twenty years.
In this manner, what happens to me is okay. Don’t take me wrong – I am not a chameleon, only some of the features of the above mentioned folks rub off on me. One risk comes along, though, and it is the risk of decision-making under these influences. When I published The Long Run, I was heavily into work of Mike Hrostoski and Samuel Hershberger who are both honest and transparent, as I was in the book. I had put my motivation under scrutiny: is it “my” part who wants to publish it? Or is it the “other” part, who will regret it in months to come?
Who we follow matters profoundly.
Questions to ask: how does it affect my process of living? Is it a good influence or a bad influence? What is the power behind my decision-making, and, if I change my mind some time in the future, will I regret my decisions? What if now I am all about transparency, but in ten years’ time I’d like to run for governor?
The answers better come from the very core.